Friday, May 31, 2013

Q&A with Will

I saw this post on My Cliffnotes and thought it would be fun to see if Will would play along. I emailed him the list of questions and waited a month to get them back. He is not a man of many words...which made it a little difficult. But he answered them so he gets lots of brownie points.
Go visit Tab, she's one of my favorite bloggers!

Where was our first date?
Our first date was to Century 16 to watch a movie
We're pretty sure this was our first official date. I thought it was to dinner, but he reminded me that was toward the end of my trip. I think we might have seen Bedtime Stories with Adam Sandler.

Where was our first kiss?
At the Hilton in downtown Anchorage
Yep!

Who said I love you first?
I say you did but it prolly was me
It was him. At our friends' house after everyone went to bed.

What were our wedding colors?
White black and I had red
Black and red. Because he didn't want to wear blue.

My most commonly used phrase?
Never mind
Hahaha! What? I feel like this isn't right.

My celebrity crush?
Orlando Bloom
Uh...like 10 years ago. Actually, he's still pretty hot. I'll take it.

If I order drinks for both of us, what would it be?
Cokes
It's usually a Coke for you and a water for me.

Best meal she's ever cooked you?
I don't know all your meals are delicious
I think his favorite was the cheesy broccoli chicken with rice. He ate three full servings.

Worst meal she's ever cooked you?
I don't know all your meals are delicious
Liar. That mac and cheese I made on his birthday wasn't very good. We both ate it, but I've made much better versions since then. Oh and the pasta with white wine sauce I made when we were living in Alaska..that was pretty awful.

What is my most played song on ipod?
Something with love in it
Hahaha! What? He hasn't been around to hear, but I've been playing Blake Shelton's latest cd a lot. I'm kind of in love with this one:

What would she say your most annoying habit is?
Pacing
YES! It drives me crazy! Even more so now that we only get to talk over Skype. It makes me dizzy when we're talking and he paces. But then he falls asleep if he sits down. But then it's funny when he nods off and his iPad tips forward and smacks him in the chest, waking him up. 

What is the last thing I do before bed?
Wash your face
Wow. No.

If you could throw out one item of my clothes, what would it be?
Nothing really
I find that hard to believe. He's always telling me I need to have less clothes because I use up so much of his space.

Your favorite thing about her?
Smile
Awww!

Her go-to drink at Starbucks?
Iced white mocha latte grande
Close. Just white mocha...not latte. And iced during the warm days, hot during the cold days. And a venti if he's with me because we both know he's going to drink most of it before I get two sips in.


Her order from Chipotle (because let's be serious, this matters!)?
Stir fried chicken
He doesn't know what Chipotle is. I'll fix that next time we're home. Especially now that there's one at Clackamas. 

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

To Each His/Her Own

I have been holding onto this for a little while to make sure I wanted to post this. But I still feel very strongly about it. So I decided to post.



A lot of thoughts, prayers, hopes, good karma, positive thoughts, etc are going out to the people affected by the victims of the tornadoes and storms in the Midwest. Mine included.

My friend posted a simple thoughtful Tweet and got a ridiculous response. This makes me FURIOUS! My friend is an amazing person and is taking the high road so I took out all names and pictures involved.


Like I said, my friend is taking the high road. If he gave me the go ahead, I'd be blasting this insensitive jerk's name all over Twitter, my blog, Facebook...every possible place I could.

What's wrong with hope? Everyone needs hope.

I myself believe in God and prayer. But I don't believe in shoving it down everyone's throats. If you want to pray. Great! If you want to hope or send good karma or even a thumbs up. Awesome! I'm not going to disparage your thoughtfulness in reaching out. If you don't agree, keep it to yourself because you're giving religious people a bad name.

Monday, May 27, 2013

Spring or Winter?

Did the White Witch reincarnate and take residence in the mountains? What is going on?


Why is there snow in the mountains again? Why is it freezing in my house again? WHYYYY?

Okay so this picture was taken last Friday, so it's not quite so bleak right now. But still. WHY?

I was back to sweatpants and a hoodie and layers and even a little heater action over the weekend. Not cool!

And it hailed yesterday.


It's supposed to be nice-ish for the next few days and then back to the rain and gloom. Boo!



*If you got the White Witch reference, you and I can be best friends*
"I see you are an idiot, whatever else you may be. Answer me, once and for all, or I shall lose my patience. Are you human?"

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Great Day

Yesterday I finally woke up at a decent time....well...a little early (6ish), but still daylight hours! Since I woke up too early, I spent the morning texting my dad and watching Archer.

texting Dad

The forecast said thunderstorms and rain for the afternoon so I ran out to get things done before the bad weather hit. I had cleaned out the fridge last night so I had to take out the trash. Normally I walk it across the street but this time I got a parking spot right next to our gate so I just tossed the bags in the backseat and drove it to the bins down the street on my way out of town.



I got my summer pool pass today at Outdoor Rec! I was the first person to get an individual pass. The pool officially opens later this week. I need to look up the schedule so I can figure out when I can swim laps. I don't think I've done laps since college...and that was a one time thing.

After I left base, I didn't feel like going home yet. The weather was just too nice. So I drove down to Pordenone to our favorite grocery store for some fresh salmon. On the way there I passed a fruit truck with signs for fragola (strawberries) and made a mental note to stop on my way home. But when I passed by again there were cars lined up so I couldn't park. Oh well, next time. I took the long way home so I could enjoy the weather just a bit longer.



I wanted to take a drive out farther to Spilimbergo, but the clouds over the mountains were looking ominous and I had to get the salmon home.


When I got home, I realized that the plants along the wall were in full bloom! So pretty! Our landlords planted it last year and I was seriously thought it was just a vine.





The storm came later than predicted. Until we got here I wasn't a huge fan of thunderstorms. They scared me and I hated when they came on when I was home alone. But they happen here all the time. ALL. THE. TIME. So I've gotten used to them and even enjoy them sometimes as long as I'm safe in the comfort of my home. This time I hung out in my second floor window for awhile to watch the rain and lightning. Weirdly enough the thing that normally has me on edge had a calming effect on me this time around.


Monday, May 20, 2013

I feel old

One of my little cousins graduated this weekend. HOLY CRAP! It's so weird to me that the kids I was old enough to remember seeing in their diapers are now old enough to be graduating high school. Here's a little perspective...this is my graduation party 9 years ago (That's the little graduate sitting to my left):



And look at her now at her graduation with our grandpa. All grown up!


I die a little inside when I can't be home with my family for times like these. So far Seester's graduation was the only one I've been able to make it home for. Everyone should cross every finger and send good karma and say lots of prayers that we can get stationed in Hawaii next so I can be near my family again. I miss all of them.

Congrats little cousin! Love you!

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Sleep Schedule

Somehow my sleep schedule got all kinds of crazy. One sleepless night and now all my nights are sleepless. I hate it! I have things to do during the day and I can't do them if I'm sleeping during business hours. Usually I'm pretty good at adjusting my sleep schedule, but for some reason this time is harder. I think it's the weather. One day it's bright and sunshiny until 8 at night...which always takes me by surprise when I look at the time. But the next day it's dark and stormy...which is equally confusing because I think it's nighttime when it's in the middle of the day. Housewife problems I guess.

Well. I'm off. Good night! Or good morning! I'm not really sure.

Friday, May 17, 2013

My Favorite Me


This picture was taken by Will on our wedding day. We were changing out of our wedding clothes and I scooped up his tux and put it on. I was striking all kinds of crazy poses and being silly. The first of many times my husband realized how weird and crazy I can be. The best part, though, was when we posted this picture on Facebook. All my friends wrote comments like, "Typical". They were all amused, but none of them were at all surprised.

This will be my last post participating in the link up. It's been fun, but the rest of the prompts aren't really doing it for me. I look forward to reading all of your posts on the topics though!

Thursday, May 16, 2013

Coping with the Hard Times

I don't like to think about the bad things in life because there's a lot of them, but I don't like dwelling on them. Life is too short to be negative and sad. But I'll still participate since the prompt not only asks for a hardship but also how I'm getting through it.

"You knew what you were getting into"

I hate this when people say this to me when I'm bumming out about being a military wife.

It's not true. How can that possibly be true? There's no way to know how difficult it would be. I got a preview of it while we were dating so I thought I could handle it, no problem. But everything is amplified 1,000 times over once I was in it everyday.

When we were dating I was in Portland in my home with my friends and my family and my life. When we got married I was trying to make a new life with my husband who was sometimes there...most times not. He went on two TDY's within the first 6 months of our marriage. The first TDY was within a month of our wedding. This year he'll be gone 7-8 months because of the TDY earlier this year and deployment going on now. There's rumors that there will be another TDY by the end of the year. Most likely Will won't go, but he's a 7-level and he's good at his job and he's easy to get along with...so there's always that chance they'll take him.

Even when he's here, we go weeks without spending time together. There are stretches of long hour days that only allow him to come home with enough time to eat and sleep before he needs to be back at work. Sometimes he comes home reeking of fuel or some other jet fluid and it's so bad that he has to strip down and leave his clothes outside. Sometimes we have a whole conversation that I don't understand because it's all maintainer or military jargon. I just nod, smile, and listen as best that I can.

My husband is a hard worker and a nice guy. So when a coworker asked to switch weekends before the deployment, he said yes even though he already worked his weekend. He picked up a weekend shift out of the goodness of his heart. He stays late because he feels guilty if he isn't in the last group out. He goes in at least 30 minutes early so that the person he's turning over can get home sooner. I love that I love a man like him. But sometimes I wish he would be a selfish ass so he would ditch out and be home with me longer or spend more time talking to me.

All this stuff...I didn't know about it before. I didn't know how truly hard it would be.

But I also love all of it. I love him. I love saying I'm an Air Force wife. I'm so proud of him. I'm proud to be married to him. And that's how I get through the bad parts. Love and pride.

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Typical

I have a sort of routine everyday. The order varies, but this is how it generally goes +/- some of them. This happens to be my day today.

If Will were here, this is what he wakes up to... (Yes I sit over him like this.)

Hi! Good Morning!

But he's not, so I skip that and head to the bathroom. Most days my hair is actively rebelling against me. It's a daily struggle. If I'm staying at home for the day, I say f-- it and let it be. But on the days I have to go out in public I have to straighten, wet & redry it, or wax it into place...or throw it up in a pony.


If I have to, I hop in the car and run errands. Whenever I walk to the car I always complain in my head about how it needs a wash.


And there's always chores. I don't always do them every day, but they're definitely there everyday.


I'm always in the process of putting together a care package either for Will or for all the guys. So far this box has drink mixes and laundry pods in it. I'll add more, but I'm not sure what yet. Normally I'd be making a care package for Seester too, but she's almost done with her deployment so no more for her. I don't want her to leave before it gets there.


And of course computer time. Facebook, emails, blogging, Netflix, Youtube, Pinterest...all the good stuff. And the not so fun stuff...like classes and bills and crap like that.

Not posed, I promise! I was messaging Seester on FB. 


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Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Pure Bliss

[uno]
My husband. He makes me laugh when I'm mad...even at him. He finds humor in the silliest things. His laughter is so infectious to me. He makes me so so happy.

deployment Skype date
Reading me a letter he got in a care package from an organization.

[due]
My sisters. All three of them are so entertaining and make me happy in their own individual ways.

Seesters

[tre]
Baby elephants. When I need to smile, I look up videos of baby elephants. Instant mood changer. Seriously, it just kills me to watch videos like this one. I love them so much!


[quattro]
Music. My taste rotates, but listening to a song I love will always make me happy...especially if Adam Levine is singing it.

[cinque]
Books. I don't even have to read a book to make me happy. Just looking at my little collection makes me happy. Knowing that they're there when I need them is comforting.

[sei]
Shopping. Retail therapy always works wonders.

[sette]
Italy. I love this country!

Florence, Italy
Firenze 08/2011
[otto]
Food. Which I guess is one major reason I love Italy so much, the food here is unreal.

[nove]
Travel. It's refreshing and good for the soul.

Rialto Bridge
Venezia 11/2012
[dieci]
My forever friends. I have awesome friends.

my forever friends
Oregon 07/2009

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Gray Skies

I love how the skies change so quickly here. I drove over to a friend's house and it was dark as dusk and pouring. A couple hours later it was clearing and bright. I also love that a couple of turns and a couple of miles and the sky looks so different.




I really should bring my DSLR around more so the pictures come out better instead of always using my iTouch.

Country sky really is so much better than the skies in the city. 

Friday, May 10, 2013

Will's Birthday

Will turned 24 a couple days ago. One of the guys at his shop brought in an ice cream cake and beers (non-alcoholic of course), so sweet! I had made a Facebook event a month ago to get his friends and family to send him birthday cards and boxes so they've been showing up all week. Hopefully he'll end up with a mountain of birthday love when they all get to him. I showed him one of his presents early over Skype, but I posted all of them on his Facebook wall so he could get visually spoiled with all his new things.



I got him a power drill with a drill and screwdriver bit sets. I couldn't get the drill shipped here so I'll pick it up from Mama's when I go home to visit. I also got him black on black New Balance running shoes for PT and two new shirts. I know he can't use any of it until he gets back, but I wanted him to know that I was thinking of him on his birthday and he'll have presents waiting for him.

Hopefully he'll be able to relax and celebrate a little on his day off later this week. One last time...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABE!

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Rain? What Rain?

I'm taking a break from the Blog Every Day in May Challenge for the next few days. I feel like the prompts have already been answered on this blog or when I was trying to write answers it felt too forced.

Anyway...

A couple days ago I drove to base to take care of some errands. The forecast said thunderstorms and rain all week so when I saw clear skies, I ran out the door to get things done. It was gorgeous all morning and most of the afternoon. In fact, I posted some pictures on Instagram with snarky little captions.

gorgeous day in northern Italy
"According to the weather app, there's an 80% chance of rain and thunderstorms right now. Ummm???"

gorgeous view of the Italian Alps
"It's so nice, even the mountains are out! #ItalianAlps"

Well...it's a good thing I got my errands done early. Because it got crazy! I had to grab the camera and get some pictures to show how hard it was raining. I sat in my doorway and enjoyed the rain and sunshine.

flash thunderstorm
flash thunderstorm
little rainbow in my yard

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

My Advice

First and foremost:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY HANDSOME HUSBAND! I hate that we can't celebrate together, but we'll celebrate both our birthdays and our anniversary together when you get home.


Skyping with my handsome crew chief

Now that my husband and I have survived over a month of our first deployment, I feel I can give some advice for surviving deployments.

Talk about your expectations beforehand.
For some couples, it's easier to talk only a few times
For some couples (like us), it helps us get through the days to hear from each other as often as possible...usually everyday.
No matter the situation, talk beforehand about what you each expect so neither of you are let down. Will asked me before he left if I wanted to hear from him everyday or if I wanted to schedule weekly calls. I asked him to call as often as possible, even if it's just to say "I love you, goodnight." And most times, that's what we're limited to. That's okay because he knows I'm not upset when he does that. I also asked for old fashioned love letters when he gets a chance and he's working on that.

Ask fellow spouses and Google tips for care packages.
For instance, the USPS site states pork and pork byproducts are banned from most countries in the middle east. I can't remember where I found it, but I remember a spouse recommended to baggie cookies in portions and then baggie them all in a gallon size bag since sand/dirt gets everywhere and it will prevent spoiling the whole batch.
I try to send things that are useful, not wasteful. Be sure your packages match your husband's personalities and tastes.

 When in doubt, send food.
When he first got there, Will didn't want anything but letters. A week later he was begging for food. Same with Seester. All she asks for is food. They both have access to the necessities at the Exchange and have access to chow halls...but they both want their favorite snacks and cookies to tide them over between meals.

Leave date does not = homecoming date

They have stops and layovers and the date they're supposed to leave doesn't mean there's a flight for them to leave on. Will is scheduled for a 6 month deployment, but I'm counting on 7 months just to be realistic. I think it took them about a week between leaving here and getting to their deployment location.

 Skype, Email, and Social Media will be your best friends.
If there's a blackout, I'm able to leave messages for my husband to see when the internet is brought back and vice versa. Sometimes I'm missing him extra and he's on the line or sleeping so I'll send him a quick message saying I love and miss him. We send each other pictures of our days and important things that we know we'll forget to mention during our talks. And Skype...my best friend. I get to see my husband's face and that always puts a smile on my face. I'm so grateful for it, I Tweeted them...and they Tweeted me back!


Tweeting with Skype
We're still early in our deployment, and I'm sure we still have a lot to learn about deployments. We're no strangers to being separated for long periods of time, but (like I've said before) this is different. I'm constantly worried about him and pray often for him to get more sleep and to come home safely. As always, I welcome any further advice and ideas on getting through the next 5-6 months. And I'm so grateful for all your support!


Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Fear

I used to fear that I would never fall in love and get married.
Now that I have Will, I fear that I won't be able to have his baby.

When Will gets back from this deployment, we would love to try for a little minion. We've talked about what we would do if we couldn't have a baby together. We'd still want to be parents and we'd definitely look into adoption. But of course we want a mini Ech or a mini Will.

My other fear is something happening to Will. Right before he left he had a string of accidents at work. He hit his knee against the dashboard of a truck at work and limped around for weeks. (Don't feel too bad for him, he refused to go to the doctor.) Then the next week he slammed his thumb in the window of the vehicle he was driving. His thumb his still recovering and it looks disgusting. He thinks it's funny to hold it up in front of the screen to gross me out when we're Skyping. He gets injured quite a bit as a crew chief. They're always getting bumps, bruises, and cuts while working on the jets. He wonders why I worry so much about him.

gross sick nasty smashed thumb nail


Monday, May 6, 2013

What I Do

If you couldn't answer with your job, how would you answer the question, 'what do you do'?

I don't really know how to answer this question.

Blog.
Read.
Clean.
Cook.
Bake.
Play video games.
Watch Netflix.
My husband.
Eat.
Sleep.
Etc.

This is a weird question. It's actually a question that comes up a lot because I'm a housewife. I hate answering it. "What do you do all day?" Like I have explain myself because I don't work or go to school.

The last time I wrote about being a housewife, I got so many comments saying things like:

"Have you thought about taking classes?" No, I already have a degree.
"Maybe you could get a part time job." Why? My husband and I decided that I wouldn't work.
"But really...what do you do all day?" Seriously? Get out of here now.

*I should explain that those comments were not written on this blog. I had posted about it on a blogger community site and it made me really step back and stop trying to connect with people for a while because of all the comments I got. Thankfully, almost all the comments I get on this blog are supportive and uplifting.*

**I should also explain that I think it's great when other women have full time jobs and can cook, clean, raise their kids, go to school, and whatever else. Good for you! That's awesome! I just am not one of those women and I'm okay with that.**

You know that fable about the man and the boy taking their donkey to the market? I'm not going to lose my happiness and marriage trying to conform to what other people think I should be doing. I'm happy. My husband is happy. Our marriage is so much better now that I don't work. That's what's most important to us.

You can also find me over at to the sea talking about what it's like as an expat living in Italy. Let me know what you think!

Sunday, May 5, 2013

Blogger Love

My blogger friends have been the most supportive while my husband and I survive our first deployment. They were the first to check in on me and the ones who get it or want to get it. They cheer me on, laugh with me, and send prayers and positive thoughts when I'm down. There are a few in particular that I feel an extra special connection with and would never have met if it hadn't been for blogging. Sorry, I know the prompt says one, but I really can't choose just one.
I first started reading Katie's blog because she's a fellow military spouse. Then I found out she's stationed basically next door to the university I went to. Then I found out her husband was deploying soon after mine. She has been so supportive and helpful, especially since she's been through multiple deployments. She also has the cutest dogs! I pretend to own them vicariously through her. Seriously, look at this post. I promise you'll be awwww-ing all over it.
BECOMING A NAVY WIFE
What drew me to Julie's blog was the Hawaii connection. She was living in Hawaii with her Navy husband. Any chance I get to see my beloved Hawaii I grab it. Unfortunately, I tuned in at the end of her stay there but I kept following along. I'm so grateful I did because she is so sweet and thoughtful. I was having a sad day after my husband deployed and she posted this which made me laugh and completely turned my day around. She was also the first to email me after my husband left to make sure I was doing okay. I can't describe how grateful I was for her kind words.
And finally, Amy. I can't remember how I found her, but she is my blogger ray of sunshine and positivity. I wish we lived near each other so we could hang out in person on a regular basis. She's super creative...it's the kind of talent I wish I had. Look at this. She writes beautifully about her relationship with God in a real way...aka not preachy or holier-than-thou. It's a gentle reminder to me to remember my beliefs. And her cat, Tobi, is awesome.
I think you should immediately follow and get to know these three ladies. They're real and genuine and basically the kind of people you should have in your life.